Comments on: Exercising Control

By: Micki

Micki — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 22:46:45 +0000

Mandy! You’re wiser than you know: “change actions >change habits> change your thoughts>change your life.” Whole books have been written in what you encapsulated! xoxo

By: Dani in NC

Dani in NC — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 01:06:38 +0000

What you said about moving slowly is key, especially if this doesn’t come naturally to you. I go through periods where I think I should give all my relationships some maintenance and I rush around calling and visiting tons of people. Then, I burn out and go back into my hidey-hole. All those people I was reaching out to wonder what happened. This makes me think that moving slowly is much better.

By: Bette

Bette — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 18:58:53 +0000

Way to go Mandy!
I’ve been in similar situations and can relate to the stages of grieving. I believe that we have many people come into our lives for very different reasons. Like the saying goes people come into your life FOR A REASON: they meet a need and once that need has passed, they too pass from your life, FOR A SEASON: these people can be in your life for a few years because you are in the same places emotionally, geographically or socially and then circumstances change and the best and most cherished: FOR A LIFETIME, and these friendships will weather any storm, you have unconditional love and trust for each other and even though you may be miles apart you always know that person is your everlasting friend. Losing a friend always leaves a whole in our hearts, and while we may never know why they have left, we are given the insight to cherish the friends that remain and to go the extra mile to feed and water those relationships. You have already made that discovery and I have no doubt that you have the strength to move on. You are truly a wonderful person and have touched so many with your kindness and warm heart! You are and have always been a “Lifetime friend in my heart. Thanks for sharing you insights.

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 02:53:53 +0000

Good for you, Mandy!
It sounds like you and I are on similar paths right now, and learning very similar lessons. One of the things that my husband said to me is that when you let go of the negative energy, you have more to give to the people and things that really matter. And I am finding that this is true.
Thank you for being so honest and so true – you are a beautiful person, inside and out.